I'll Be There (But I'll Be Wearing Sweatpants)

I'll Be There (But I'll Be Wearing Sweatpants)

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  • Author:Amy Weatherly
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Summary

I'll be there (but I'll be wearing sweatpants): finding unfiltered, real-life friendships in this crazy, chaotic world。

There are few things that can feel more challenging than making friends as an adult。 Amy Weatherly and Jess Johnston address common obstacles to true connection and offer a confessional, hilarious, and practical guide for building friendships in the middle of this crazy, rollercoaster life。

If you've ever wondered why it seems like such a struggle to make and maintain friendships as an adult--it's not just you。 The number of Americans who claim to have no close friends has drastically increased over the last few decades。 Loneliness doesn't care what age you are, how many Instagram followers you have, or where you call home。 It doesn't care how "put together" you appear to the outside world。 Women have a collective wound that only authentic sisterhood can heal。

In I'll Be There (But I'll Be Wearing Sweatpants), Amy Weatherly and Jess Johnston, creators of the popular online community "Sister, I Am With You," offer an-easy-to-follow road map to the place we all desperately want to be--standing beside other women who see us, know us, and love us for who we truly are。 With hilariously relatable vulnerability and actionable steps we can all take today to build deep and satisfying friendships, Amy and Jess show us how to break free from unhealthy habits that block us from connection;
find the confidence to live freely and without fear of rejection; and
intentionally pursue friends in everyday life。

I'll Be There (But I'll Be Wearing Sweatpants) won't talk down to us, or boss us around。 It won’t give cliché or empty advice that leaves us feeling even more discouraged than before。 This book will snuggle up beside us, grab a fuzzy blanket, and say "Let me show you how to do it。 I’ve been there too。 It’s hard, but it’s not impossible, and it’s so much better together。"

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Reviews

Nancy

I had the privilege of reading an advance copy from the publisher。 This book was like listening to my own heat and soul。 Amy Weatherly and Jess Johnston wrote every word from their heart and what seemed like from my own。 I felt like I was snuggled up on their couch, drinking my coffee, pouring into each the very bits of friendship the I so desire。 I HIGHLY, HIGHLY recommend the book。 You will NOT be disappointed!!!

Katrina Sinclair

This is such an easy read。 I'm used to reading really deep books by psychologists and neuroscientists。 I really appreciated how this book feels。 It's comfortable, non-judgemental, honest and real。 Some things I couldn't relate to because they were so typical of what is normal and almost expected stereotypes for women in our culture。 I mean, I'm not worrying about my weight or when I washed my hair last, or nail polish, a spa or make up。 I don't struggle with those things, but I understand a lot This is such an easy read。 I'm used to reading really deep books by psychologists and neuroscientists。 I really appreciated how this book feels。 It's comfortable, non-judgemental, honest and real。 Some things I couldn't relate to because they were so typical of what is normal and almost expected stereotypes for women in our culture。 I mean, I'm not worrying about my weight or when I washed my hair last, or nail polish, a spa or make up。 I don't struggle with those things, but I understand a lot of women do。 So, it speaks to our experience as women a lot and I think anyone can find a lot to relate to。 It's funny, light-hearted and outright honest。 I love the actionable steps to building friendships and the fact that it takes time。 It doesn't happen overnight。 I loved how they talked about finding your people and knowing who they are and letting those, that aren't your people, go。 I think there acrionable steps could be put nicely in a pdf and printed off as a guide, but their stories make it seem so much more doable。 As a mother, I don't know how many times I heard people say to use my village。 It sucked。 I didn't have one and I didn't know how to create one, because I thought I was odd, that everyone else had a million other things to do and their own group of friends already too。 Maybe it's all true, but there is always a way to invite more people into your life and build meaningful friendships。 It might take time and effort and people will come and go, but you need to put our the effort and intention and open up opportunities to find your people。 I can't tell you here in the review。 You've got to read the book, and they'll tell you alllllll about it! It's starting to haaaappen over here! Thank you, Amy and Jess for a book that allowed me to feel normal again, like I didn't have to fix myself and give me hope and empower me that I can have amazing friendships too。 。。。more

Denyse Martinez

Disclosure: I received a advanced copy of the book through #NetGalley。 I am a member of the book launch team。Navigating friendships that are real & authentic can be hard。 Amy Weatherly & Jess Johnston take a down to earth approach, on what it truly means to be a friend。 This book is very conversational & immediately draws the reader in。 I found myself laughing & crying as I read。。 It was so easy to relate to their stories of their triumphs & struggles, of trying to find their place & "tribe" of Disclosure: I received a advanced copy of the book through #NetGalley。 I am a member of the book launch team。Navigating friendships that are real & authentic can be hard。 Amy Weatherly & Jess Johnston take a down to earth approach, on what it truly means to be a friend。 This book is very conversational & immediately draws the reader in。 I found myself laughing & crying as I read。。 It was so easy to relate to their stories of their triumphs & struggles, of trying to find their place & "tribe" of friends。 This is definitely a must read for every woman or young woman, who is flawed & imperfect, but perfectly who she is。 This book empowers every woman to realize that they are not alone, in their journey to find real & meaningful friendships。 Through life's up & downs, Amy & Jess weave the reader into the pages - it's easy to relate to their truthfulness & raw emotions。If your looking for a great read, look no further !This book brings on a NEW sisterhood movement! So bring your sweatpants & get a good cup of coffee; before settling down to reading this engaging book! I'm sure you'll love it & find some of yourself resonating, in their story! 。。。more

Megan

This book just speaks to the heart of friendships。 No matter what stage of life you are in, whether you have a great group of close friends or you are in a season of looking for that close friendship this book is for you。 I found something that spoke to my heart in each chapter。 Amy and Jess do such a wonderful job of explaining the blessing that is meaningful and lasting friendship。

Lindsey Althaus

This book is perfection! It’s been for ever since I read a book where I said yes and hi lighted everything。 If you are feeling jaded from a friendship this book will restore your faith in humanity!

Bethany

I received an advance copy of this book from the publisher。 It was an easy read, so relatable, and funny! It’s nice to know you’re not the only one, and reading through this book you’re sure to find yourself in the chapters。 The authors are authentic, funny, and give practical tips to make and foster friendships as an adult。 This book definitely made me think (between laughter and thinking it’s not just me), which I think is why I liked it so much。 It caused me to think about ways I can include I received an advance copy of this book from the publisher。 It was an easy read, so relatable, and funny! It’s nice to know you’re not the only one, and reading through this book you’re sure to find yourself in the chapters。 The authors are authentic, funny, and give practical tips to make and foster friendships as an adult。 This book definitely made me think (between laughter and thinking it’s not just me), which I think is why I liked it so much。 It caused me to think about ways I can include those on the outside, make new connections, etc。 It also made me think about times I might not have been the best friend。 Great book! 。。。more

Kristin Trezza

This book was a hug for my soul。 I've been in an incredibly lonely season, and this Amy and Jess gave me the encouragement that I didn't even know I needed。 I HIGHLY recommend this book for any woman, regardless of current situation, as we all go through lonely seasons from time to time。 This book was a hug for my soul。 I've been in an incredibly lonely season, and this Amy and Jess gave me the encouragement that I didn't even know I needed。 I HIGHLY recommend this book for any woman, regardless of current situation, as we all go through lonely seasons from time to time。 。。。more

Amanda

This book was something I needed as a mom of two young kids that feels super alone a lot。 I have Always tried to make everyone happy and it’s a reminder that I needed。 Recommend everyone to read this。

Jessica

This book is a must read! Amy and Jess have done an amazing job putting into words how so many women and girls feel。 It is raw,honest,relatable and full of truths that everyone else is to scared to mention。 This should become required reading for middle/high school girls and their moms! I absolutely loved this book and will be sharing it with everyone I know!

Vicki Schuck

If you’ve ever had friendship struggles, especially as an adult, this book helps you to see that you are not alone。 But it doesn’t leave you there。 Friendship struggles don’t end when your school years do。 These two ladies are spot on when reflecting and reminding us what true friendship is, what it isn’t and whether we are truly being a good friend or not, with much humility, humor and relatable stories sprinkled throughout。 It’s written with genuine authenticity and feels like you are sitting If you’ve ever had friendship struggles, especially as an adult, this book helps you to see that you are not alone。 But it doesn’t leave you there。 Friendship struggles don’t end when your school years do。 These two ladies are spot on when reflecting and reminding us what true friendship is, what it isn’t and whether we are truly being a good friend or not, with much humility, humor and relatable stories sprinkled throughout。 It’s written with genuine authenticity and feels like you are sitting across the table of a coffee shop (or messy house) talking with a friend。 Definitely a must read! 。。。more

Kendra Peek

I am loving this book! It feels like Amy and Jess truly understand the difficulties of adult friendships and how hard they are。 I appreciate their perspectives。 You'll laugh, you'll cry, -- literally, on both accounts -- and you'll enjoy it all。 I am loving this book! It feels like Amy and Jess truly understand the difficulties of adult friendships and how hard they are。 I appreciate their perspectives。 You'll laugh, you'll cry, -- literally, on both accounts -- and you'll enjoy it all。 。。。more

Crystal Swiney Lovell

Wow。。。 so much to say but。。。 Wow。 I am a fan of the authors so I was pretty sure I would like this book。 However, I didn't realize how much I NEEDED this book。 I've always struggled with friendships。 I mean, I'm a pretty friendly person and have lots of friends but those REAL, MEANINGFUL relationships that you see portrayed on TV have slipped past me so many times。 Amy and Jess speak in honest, loving ways- telling their stories and giving amazing advice as to how to achieve those friendships an Wow。。。 so much to say but。。。 Wow。 I am a fan of the authors so I was pretty sure I would like this book。 However, I didn't realize how much I NEEDED this book。 I've always struggled with friendships。 I mean, I'm a pretty friendly person and have lots of friends but those REAL, MEANINGFUL relationships that you see portrayed on TV have slipped past me so many times。 Amy and Jess speak in honest, loving ways- telling their stories and giving amazing advice as to how to achieve those friendships and WHY we need them。 It's made me look at my life and my friendships in a different light。 I'm excited to put everything I've learned into practice。If you have ever watched Friends, Sex in the City, How I Met Your Mother, Buffy, etc。 and wished you had those there-no-matter-what friendships, this book will help you on your way。 If you have ever felt alone when surrounded by other people because nobody fully GETS you, this book will help you understand why。 I highly, highly recommend! 。。。more

Debbie Patoska

I have been following Amy for some time and was just thrilled to hear about a book being released about friendship! I was blessed to be part of the book launch team and was able to read a pre published version of the book。 It was so refreshing to read a book and totally feel the way they do! Being an adult also means friendships struggle, for whatever the reasons。 But we really need them! Cant wait to finish the book。

Zanayne

Amy Weatherly and Jess Johnston are a magnificent duo! This book is the Bible on friendships that last! The prayer at the beginning and at the end made me cry, and it had me all in the feels! This book is about love, acceptance and celebrates what our friends should look and that all of us ladies both young and old deserve a friendship and or a tribe。 Beautifully written by 2 of the most wonderful women alive。 You will not be disappointed ❤️

Tabitha Burt

This review has been hidden because it contains spoilers。 To view it, click here。 This book is both soul-filling and heart-changing。 Jess and Amy do an amazing job swapping off chapters but keeping the flow absolutely seamless。 I feel like they are just having a conversation with me on the couch。 It's not stuffy or written AT the reader-- it's written as if they are digging into your brain and heart。 Adult friendships can be so shallow and difficult, and they have the boldness to call all of that out。 I love that they don't give you, as one side of the friendship, an out。 It' This book is both soul-filling and heart-changing。 Jess and Amy do an amazing job swapping off chapters but keeping the flow absolutely seamless。 I feel like they are just having a conversation with me on the couch。 It's not stuffy or written AT the reader-- it's written as if they are digging into your brain and heart。 Adult friendships can be so shallow and difficult, and they have the boldness to call all of that out。 I love that they don't give you, as one side of the friendship, an out。 It's not just about how other people need to be better friends and the world should be nicer to each other。 It's about you working on your heart and mind and habits in order to become a better friend or a friend in the first place。 It puts the responsibility both on you and other people, which is so rare in books I have read on this topic。 It's real and it's raw and it makes you feel seen and known。 Yes, it is geared toward women。 But I guarantee you any man could pick this book up and get just as much out of it。 I have shared this book idea with everyone I know and proudly attach my name to it on social media and how much it has meant to me already。 It's a very easy read, it is not burdensome or clunky。 You will laugh, you will cry, you will audibly say "Oh, yes"。。。 Jess and Amy really do a quality job of manifesting so many of the thoughts and feelings we all have。 I can't wait to start a book club and share this with other people and break it down further。 I really feel that this book is going to be a game changer in the realm of female friendships! 。。。more

Jennifer Wolf

In a time when so many people are staying home and keeping to themselves Jess and Amy find a way to make us all feel connected and not alone。 This book is exactly what we need to hear。 Life is hard。 There are women looking for meaningful friendships but just don’t know how to start making them。 Just like in life; this book is filled with laughter, love, heartache and so many other things that we relate to。 Read this book! You will be so thankful you did。 ♥️

Jennifer Blatz

This is the book on friendship that my soul needed。 Amy and Jess write with humor, honesty, and vulnerability on a topic that so many of us struggle with。

Shea

I have followed Amy and Jess on social media for a while and could not wait for the release of their book - absolutely does not disappoint! It’s a read that truly touches women of all ages and all friendships。 I wish my younger self could have had these words to feel less alone in that season, but I am grateful for the wisdom it gives me at this place in my life as well。 This book imparts loving advice about friendship from women who have been there, all delivered with doses of relatable humor, I have followed Amy and Jess on social media for a while and could not wait for the release of their book - absolutely does not disappoint! It’s a read that truly touches women of all ages and all friendships。 I wish my younger self could have had these words to feel less alone in that season, but I am grateful for the wisdom it gives me at this place in my life as well。 This book imparts loving advice about friendship from women who have been there, all delivered with doses of relatable humor, and leaves you feeling seen, understood, and less alone on the journey to find your tribe。 。。。more

Tori Annett

I love this book。 I felt like I was talking to my two best friends the whole time reading it。 Amy and Jess explain adulthood friendships and how extremely hard they can be。 Sometimes as an adult I still feel like I am in high school。 There are real life cliques and women are mean。 Or they can be。 Amy and Jess make it known that we’ve just got to find our people。 The ones that accept us-messy kitchen and all。 I definitely recommend everyone read this that can!!

Mellisa Oliva

Well I made it!…to almost the last chapter before the tears started flowing。 Amy and Jess take us on a journey of relatable content of how friendships go throughout our entire lives。 I read a chapter or two a night and slept better just knowing that there are other women out there in the world who share the same experiences and feelings that I have。 We are not alone and Amy and Jess let us know that by sharing their raw and candid experiences。 Chapter 12 came just at the right moment for me。 A m Well I made it!…to almost the last chapter before the tears started flowing。 Amy and Jess take us on a journey of relatable content of how friendships go throughout our entire lives。 I read a chapter or two a night and slept better just knowing that there are other women out there in the world who share the same experiences and feelings that I have。 We are not alone and Amy and Jess let us know that by sharing their raw and candid experiences。 Chapter 12 came just at the right moment for me。 A moment where I needed to read the words ‘You’re not a doormat。 You’re not desperate。 You’re disappointed。’ And with those words, I had validation that friendship breakups are hard but very much needed when they are bad friendships。 Thank you Jess and Amy for giving us validation and sharing your stories of friendship。 Highly recommend this read。 。。。more

Jessica Saba

"I'll Be There (But I'll Be Wearing Sweatpants)" is one of those wonderful and unique books that speaks to my very soul。 So many times I read a book and it just isn't the right one for me, but I can say without a doubt that this isn't one of them。 It is filled with stories that made me laugh, that made me cry, and that made me realize that I'm not alone, that there really are other people in the world who think and act like I do。 Amy Weatherly and Jess Johnston have shared who they are so well t "I'll Be There (But I'll Be Wearing Sweatpants)" is one of those wonderful and unique books that speaks to my very soul。 So many times I read a book and it just isn't the right one for me, but I can say without a doubt that this isn't one of them。 It is filled with stories that made me laugh, that made me cry, and that made me realize that I'm not alone, that there really are other people in the world who think and act like I do。 Amy Weatherly and Jess Johnston have shared who they are so well that after reading their book, I feel like they are my friends and that we've just sat down together to eat some tacos。 I started out reading their Facebook page, Sister I am With You, and I was thrilled when I found out that they were writing a book。 I would definitely recommend this book to anyone who has ever struggled to make close friends, to keep friends, or who longs to be the most amazing friend they can to others。 。。。more

Anna Jones

Amy Weatherly and Jess Johnston expose real stories that resonate with me and chances are, you too。 Warning: Heartfelt tears and laughter may be experienced as you read。 Want to feel lighter? Haha, this is not a diet book, but the content of this book could help you lose some weight of façade friendships you may be holding on to。 True stories are told of the author’s own adult friendships that must have been hard to expose。 If you have ever felt an ounce of loneliness in your adult life, read th Amy Weatherly and Jess Johnston expose real stories that resonate with me and chances are, you too。 Warning: Heartfelt tears and laughter may be experienced as you read。 Want to feel lighter? Haha, this is not a diet book, but the content of this book could help you lose some weight of façade friendships you may be holding on to。 True stories are told of the author’s own adult friendships that must have been hard to expose。 If you have ever felt an ounce of loneliness in your adult life, read this book。 If you have tons of friends, read this book。 I think this book could help one realize where and how true adult friendships can survive。 Some friendships are meant to be forever, while others are temporary for a reason。The beginning of the book gave me a heavy heart, but I kept reading, and I felt lots lighter by the end of the book。 :) I’m thankful for the opportunity given to me to preview the free electronic copy from Net Galley before the release date。 I can’t wait to get my hands on the hard copies so that I can give them away。 Great book。 I gave it 4 stars, because its part of the review process。 I personally do not like to judge that way, because it’s subjective。 :) It’s a good book, get it, read it, and give it all the stars the book deserves。 :) 。。。more

Melissa (LifeFullyBooked)

Just the book I needed to read right now。I must admit that I struggle with adult friendships, big time。 It's so much simpler when the kids are small and you can get to know other adults through their activities and school。 That's not to say that finding friends is easy at any stage of adult life, but I'm finding the empty nesting stage to be an incredibly challenging time。 This new book from bloggers Amy Weatherly and Jess Johnston addresses the issue of adult friendships, insecurity, being lef Just the book I needed to read right now。I must admit that I struggle with adult friendships, big time。 It's so much simpler when the kids are small and you can get to know other adults through their activities and school。 That's not to say that finding friends is easy at any stage of adult life, but I'm finding the empty nesting stage to be an incredibly challenging time。 This new book from bloggers Amy Weatherly and Jess Johnston addresses the issue of adult friendships, insecurity, being left out, when it's time to part ways with a friend, among many other things。 The tone and writing is conversational and very real, letting the reader know that they are not alone in the struggle to connect with others。 There is a great deal of practical advice that had me in tears because I recognized the longing for close friendships in my life。 The book challenged me to keep putting myself out there, regardless of my insecurity and feeling like it will never happen for me。 This is a valuable book for women looking to forge adult friendships。 I voluntarily reviewed a complimentary copy of this book, all opinions are my own。 。。。more

Krista Shoults

A book I didn’t realized I needed。 Amy and Jess invite you into everything friendship with a prayer and a little humor。 Friendships, turmoil, self reflection and stories on how to maneuver life with your tribe, find your tribe or find new members。 A great and easy read, but one that I will read again and again。

Lila Diller

I almost didn't finish this book, but I'm glad I did。 The first three chapters have way TMI and seem to focus way too much on the negatives of why we don't have close friendships。 We know the problem already。 That's why we picked up the book。 But I'm glad I continued on, because even though the last few chapters had a lot of fluff, the middle chapters had some good applicable ideas。 This book is definitely not for everyone, but it has some good nuggets for those who are looking for more or deepe I almost didn't finish this book, but I'm glad I did。 The first three chapters have way TMI and seem to focus way too much on the negatives of why we don't have close friendships。 We know the problem already。 That's why we picked up the book。 But I'm glad I continued on, because even though the last few chapters had a lot of fluff, the middle chapters had some good applicable ideas。 This book is definitely not for everyone, but it has some good nuggets for those who are looking for more or deeper friendships。Favorite quotes:“Sometimes the friendship is worth the fight, and sometimes it’s time to let it go。 The important thing is that we don’t give up。 There is always hope, even if it doesn’t come in the package we expected。” (Jess Johnston, p。 176)“You’ll always find what you’re looking for。 Listen up。 If you expect people to reject you, fail you, or be mean and hurtful, you’re going to find what you’re looking for … Learn to look for the good—really, really look for it—and you’re most likely going to find what you’re looking for。” (Jess Johnston, p。 178)“So go into a new friendship expecting it to be kinda weird at first。” (Jess Johnston, p。 179)(I received a copy for free from the publisher。 I was not compensated for this review。 All opinions are my own, as was the decision to write this review。) 。。。more

Liz Clayton

Just finished reading this fantastic book in anticipation of its launch later this month and it was awesome! Reading the title of this book made me wish I had it as a resource when my kids were in high school… who am I kidding… I wish I had it as a resource when I was in high school but the most beautiful part of this book was that its not just for young people。 People come in and out of our lives for many different reasons and seasons。 Some friendships break and leave scars that are difficult t Just finished reading this fantastic book in anticipation of its launch later this month and it was awesome! Reading the title of this book made me wish I had it as a resource when my kids were in high school… who am I kidding… I wish I had it as a resource when I was in high school but the most beautiful part of this book was that its not just for young people。 People come in and out of our lives for many different reasons and seasons。 Some friendships break and leave scars that are difficult to overcome。Early in life we all learned that “you have to be a friend to make a friend” but once we started school we realized that not all friend groups were equal and just being friendly did not gain you access。 I breathed a sign of relief after I graduated from high school because… well high school… until I realized that it doesn’t end with high school。 All the same insecurities and social hierarchies were ingrained everywhere else in life and now on social media。 Amy & Jess chose to write this book together because that is the message of the book, “lets not do life alone; lets do it together。” Their respective voices are beautiful counterpoints that compare and contrast throughout the narrative。 You feel their respect and love for each other。They write in a very conversational manner that is inviting and warm。 They speak to the very basic nuts and bolts of finding others to do life with and the pursuit of, “The kind of friendship that is safe for big feelings, deep secrets, and laughing so hard you snort。” and to “be the kind of women who hold someone’s struggles and carry someone’s burdens。”No matter where you are in life this book is a beautiful reminder that friendships grow and change and that we must care for and maintain them。 If you have felt the ache of being on the outside looking in… then read this book。 If you still feel that way…read this book and look for others reading it!If you have found your tribe count your blessings and…read this book while keeping a lookout for those who have not。If you find yourself between stages…read this book and be encouraged that you are never alone!Preorder this book! You can thank me later! #amreading #illbetherebook #friendship #sweatpants #laughuntilyousnort 。。。more

Brianne

This real life encouragement to find your people and love them well。 Don’t try to fit in where you do t belong instead look for the outsiders。 Such a great book for this season。

Shaunie Gassner

I loved the book! Their stories are so relatable。 Haven’t we all struggled in friendship? Life changes or friends move away。 It’s hard! This book walks you through dealing with that!

Megan

I follow Amy & Jess on social media and love their honest, unfiltered, real posts that show their personality。 This all carried over into the book, and I loved how they wove personal stories and experiences in with research and tips for forming adult friendships。 This book is a reminder to be intentional with those relationships and improving our communication to improve our connections。 I look forward to sharing this book with my friends as it is released at the end of the month。

Jane Shaw

I received a pre publication version of this book。 I felt as if I could have written it, the two writers say all the things I think and feel。 I need to go back and read it again to take it all in and to make notes。